Listening Prayer and inner healing (7)

If you have never invited Jesus into a painful memory before, here are some simple, safe, beginning exercises:

  1. Practise finding Jesus in any memory.  Ask the Lord to remind you of a pleasant memory when you felt full of love, joy or peace.    Then ask Jesus to show you where He was then.
  2. Next, practise removing a simple truth-based burden.  Remember a time when you felt a disappointment.  Ask the Lord to show you what the disappointment looked like.  Invite Him to draw near in the memory and lift the burden off.  Practise allowing Him to remove that burden.
  3. Finally, practise removing a simple lie-based pain.  Recall an incident when you were anxious about doing something for the first time (a new school, job, public speaking, and so on).  Find Jesus in that memory.  Tell Him that you’re afraid and why you’re afraid.  See how He responds.  Feel what that does to your anxiety.

Remember, these are not mere techniques;  they are the presence of Jesus in every memory, the Cross of Christ for every burden, and the truth of Christ for every lie.

Can You Hear Me?  Chapter 13.


Using honour to create a safe place.

How can Church leadership create freedom and not more rules?  How can we bring out the best in human beings?  The difficulty in leading free people is the risk that they might use their freedom in the wrong way.  But God sees the risk as worth it.  The majority of leaders are pretty uptight.  The same goes for many parents.  When parents need to go somewhere with their children, when a vicar prepares to lead a Sunday service, if there is something important going on, and the outcome matters to you, there’s a good chance that you are uptight or stressed.  Another word for uptight is fear.  When somebody does something threatening or unexpected in your environment, when somebody is not safe, a gland in our brain begins to flood our body with the messages:  react, defend, disappear, fight or flee.  These are some of the responses in which we show our worst.  When we do not feel safe, it’s likely that we will allow fear to start directing our behaviour.

When we practise honour to one another, which includes love and trust, fear is not allowed to rule our decisions and freedom gets preserved.

Condensed from Chapter 6, Culture of Honour by Danny Silk.  Honour

Listening Prayer and inner healing (6)

With lie-based pain:

  • We ask the person why they feel that emotion.  This exposes lies that energise the emotion.
  • We also ask the person what messages they received about themselves (like, ‘I am a loser’), about others (like, ‘Adults are liars’), life or the world (like, ‘Life stinks’), and even about God (like, ‘God doesn’t care’).  This question shows us what judgements they have made that now reap consequences in their daily life.  Even true judgements, if made in bitterness, will come back to punish us.  We often become what we judge or else turn into the extreme opposite.

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Listening Prayer and inner healing (5)

The other category of emotion that needs to be removed from our memories is lie-based pain.  The most common we encounter are fear/anxiety/panic, shame/worthlessness/dirtiness, rejection, abandonment, loneliness/isolation, hopelessness/despair and helplessness or powerlessnesss.

Tomorrow we will look at questions to ask someone about these.  Many of these emotions dissolve as soon as we find Jesus in a memory, because He is Truth and Love incarnate.  In His presence, the lies behind these emotions do not feel true anymore.  However, Jesus would still have us bring each of these lies to Him to hear and see His truthful reaction.

Can You Hear Me?  Chapter 13.


Listening Prayer and inner healing (3)


When we ask someone to confess painful emotions stored in a particular memory, we find that every one of these emotions falls into one of two categories:  truth-based burdens and lie-based pain.  Jesus approaches each one differently.  He lifts burdens away to the Cross and He removes lies by showing us the truth.

Can You Hear Me?  Chapter 13.


Listening Prayer and inner healing (2)


My friend Heather and I were praying for Terri, a young Christian who struggled deeply with depression, loneliness and abandonment.  When we asked the Lord to track this back to a seminal moment, Terri recalled her childhood memories of being five and six years old and coming home to an empty house or being left to babysit her toddler sister.  They lived in a caravan in a rough area of town.  She recalled the deep-seated fear and loneliness of those years.  She would lock all the doors and hide inside until her parents returned from work.

As we prayed, Terri exploded in fits of tears, ‘Where was Jesus then?’   Continue reading “Listening Prayer and inner healing (2)”

Listening Prayer and Inner Healing


Shani sat with my wife, sobbing deeply through a stream of healing tears.  She had just witnessed a profound revelation with the eyes of her heart.  The Lord had taken her back to a painful memory involving an indecent assault.  As she recalled the scene, she saw Christ enter the room and draw next to her, take her hand, and weep for her.  As He did, her sorrow became His, and she felt the burden of sadness leave her heart, to be replaced by peace.  Suddenly, she gasped.

‘I can’t believe this!  Jesus has just taken my place!   Continue reading “Listening Prayer and Inner Healing”

Having a Meeting Place when seeking inner healing

Three-way conversational prayer is helpful in seeking inner healing for someone.

In this model, you ask a question, Jesus gives the answer to the person you’re praying for, and he or she reports Jesus’ answer back to you.

Rather than sort out ourselves which ‘window’ of a person’s soul we must enter in order to invite Jesus, much better to just find Jesus first and ask Him to lead us there.  Everyone, even the most wounded soul, has a safe place in his or her heart in which to meet Jesus.  It might be any of the Meeting Places we studies earlier.  It’s like the ‘hallway’, a place of safety where Jesus will meet us and lead us into the healing work that he deems necessary for that session.

A meeting place enables you to find Jesus in a safe place rather than searching frantically for Him in the middle of a traumatic memory.  It becomes a safe ‘square one’ base for all forays into healing.

In the meeting place, Jesus prepares us to enter painful memories.  He provides, comfort, courage, reassurance and promises before we enter the scary places.  If things in a memory get a little ‘hairy’, you can always retreat to the ‘hallway’ for more clarification or courage.

A meeting place establishes Jesus as the leader of every prayer ministry time.  Whenever you feel lost, you can simply ask, ‘What needs to happen next?’  As Trevor Walters, an Anglican priest, once told me,

‘The less you think you know, the more authority you’ll have.’

That’s because you leave more space for Jesus to work rather than assuming you know how to sort the problem.

From Can You Hear Me? Chapter 13.   Brad-Jersak-Can-you-hear-me-201x300